Our team at Menlo Group has taken a variety of different assessments to discover our attributes, strengths and languages of appreciation. Dr. Benjamin Hardy asserts that personality tests like these can limit our lives if we let them.
“You can decide who you’re committed to being and becoming,” Hardy writes in the introduction of his book Personality Isn’t Permanent. “Who you become is a choice—which only you can make.”
We recently read
his book as a team and would love to share our insights.
We can become whoever we want to be.
As the book title
states, our personalities aren’t permanent. We can change and become whoever we
want to be. “Who you want to be in the future is more important than who
you are now, and should actually inform who you are now,” Hardy says.
We must be
intentional about setting goals to become that person. These changes may not
always be the comfortable or easy route, and we may fail along the way, but
each step is a step closer to becoming our ideal selves. We should focus on
continual growth instead of individual milestones and achievements.
Our pasts don’t define us.
So many of us have
lived our lives in a certain way based our past experiences, particularly our
past traumas. We need to let go of the labels we’ve assigned to ourselves (“introvert,”
“unathletic,” “bad at math,” etc.). Hardy emphasizes the importance of an
empathetic witness to listen to our emotions and help us reframe our
experiences. They can provide additional insights to help us move forward.
To change our personalities, we need to change our habits and environments.
Our ideal future
selves don’t stay up late, waste time on social media or eat too many sweets.
We can start to become that person by removing these limiting behaviors. Our
environments also play a role in helping us become our ideal selves. We should
surround ourselves with people who match who we want to become and regularly
get outside our comfort zones to ensure our personalities don’t stay stable
We enjoyed the book and the thought-provoking questions Hardy asks in each chapter. We look forward to continuing to apply these principles to change our personalities.
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